Prayer

Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace   SPIRITUAL MATURITY 2 Peter 3:18 “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” Prayer:                         1. Which factors effect your frequency and consistency in prayer:                         ___ Comfort level with God----------- __increases prayer        __decreases prayer                         ___ Confidence level ------------------  __increases prayer      __decreases prayer                         ___ Meaningfulness -------------------  __increases prayer      __decreases prayer                         ___ Social Support --------------------  __increases prayer     __decreases prayer                         ___ Difficult Situation ----------------  __increases prayer        __decreases prayer                         ___ Positive Situation -----------------  __increases prayer      __decreases prayer                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________               2. What is your greatest strength with prayer?                           3. What is your greatest struggle or need in regards to prayer?                         4. What is the ‘content’ of your prayers: (place the % by each)                         ____    Praising God                         ____    Thanking God                         ____    Asking for something                         ____    Sharing wrongs done and seeking guidance/forgiveness                         ____    Conversing about life (sharing feelings and general thoughts)                         ____    Acknowledging God’s presence                         ____    Listening                         ____    Other: ____________________________________________________               5. How do you pray? (check all that apply)                         ____    In your own words                         ____    In song                         ____    Through doing Art (painting, sculpture, etc.)                         ____    In the words of another (devotional books, etc.)                         ____    In the words of Scripture (Psalms, Lord’s Prayer, etc.)                         ____    In tongues                         ____    In images                         ____    Other _________________________________________________________               6. How much time is spent praying for (give %)                         ___ Yourself                         ___ Your family                         ___ Your friends and acquaintances                         ___ Your Church                         ___ The Nation & World                         ___ God’s will to be seen and done                         ___ Other: ____________________________________________________________               7. How much time is spent: _____ Talking to God…… _____ listening to God               8. What keeps you from spending prayer time in “listening”?                         ___ I don’t know how                         ___ I don’t know if I hear God accurately                         ___ It seems arrogant                         ___ I already spend enough time listening                         ___ Impatience                         ___ I don’t expect God to speak                         ___Other: _____________________________________________________________               9. How frequently do you pray?                         ___ Constantly (always with God’s presence)                         ___ Several times a day                         ___ Daily                         ___ Every Few Days                         ___ Every So Often                         ___ Rarely                         ___ Never                         ___ It varies from week to week or with different times of year --- Why? ____________

Learning

Learning:               1. How do you learn: (check all that apply)                         ___ Book/Video/Audio lessons                         ___ Meditating on materials                         ___ Memorizing                         ___ Attending Lectures                         ___ By talking with others                         ___ By doing something or experiencing it                         ___ Reading Books                         ___ Just being with God                         ___ By Observing God’s creation                         ___ Through the message of symbols and rituals                         ___ Other: _______________________________________________               2. What do you seek to achieve out of learning:                         ___ General Knowledge                         ___ Personal Insights                         ___ Direction for personal situations                         ___ A message of instruction from God                         ___ Connection with God                         ___ Connection with the world                         ___ Historic Insights                         ___ Encouragement                         ___ Strength                         ___ Peace                         ___ Joy                         ___ Other: ________________________________________________              3. What of the Bible have you studied in the last year?                         ___ Old Testament book:______________________________________                         ___ New Testament book: _____________________________________                         ___ Topical Study: ___________________________________________                         ___ Other: _________________________________________________               4. What resources do you use to help you learn about and know God?                         ___ Bible                         ___ Commentaries                         ___ Study Materials (workbooks, etc.)                         ___ Devotionals (e.g. from authors like Max Lucado/ Beth Moore/etc.)                         ___ Bible Dictionaries, Atlas, Concordance, History books                         ___ Small Group or Classes                         ___ Books on specific topics                         ___ Prayer                         ___  Meditation, and/or Reflection                         ___ Friends                         ___ Online Lessons or Blogs                         ___ Other ___________________________               5. How do you apply what you learn about God and God’s desires?                         ___ Changed (or am changing) attitudes                         ___ Changed specific actions (stopped or started actions)                         ___ I didn’t make any changes                         ___ I persevered in something                         ___ Changed what I thought/believed about something                         ___ Other: _______________________________________________               6. What % do you focus on learning:                         ___ for head knowledge (knowing about God, etc.)                         ___ for life application & transformation (knowing God)               7. What issue or topic do you most want/need to learn about? Why?_____________                  _______________________________________________________________               8. What % of the time in your learning do you find yourself saying:                         ___ “people should do that”  or  ___ “I know someone who needs to do this”                         ___ “I should do that”           or  ___ “I need to know this”       Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace

Worship

Worship:               1. How do you define ‘worship’? ____________________________________________________               2. How frequently do you spend time worshipping God?                         ___  Constantly                         ___   Daily                         ___   Weekly                         ___    Every so often                         ___    Rarely                         ___    Never               3. How frequently do you attend worship with others?                         ___ Weekly or more                         ___ Few times /Month                         ___ Once every couple of Months                         ___ A couple of times/Year                         ___ Rarely                         ___ Never               4. How frequently do you feel like you have truly worshipped?                         ___ Constantly                         ___ Weekly                         ___ Few times /Month                         ___ Once every couple of Months                         ___ A couple of times/Year                         ___ Rarely                         ___ Never               5. What most impacts whether you feel like you have worshipped?                         ___ Personal Situation                         ___ Quality of a worship service                         ___ Time personally preparing to be with God                         ___ Distractions (noise, etc.)                         ___ Choosing to focus on God                         ___ Tools used to help me connect with God (music, visuals, symbols, etc.)                         ___ Other: ______________________________________________________               6. Prioritize which parts of worship are most powerful for you?  Why?                         ___ Prayer: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Music: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Communion: _________________________________________________                         ___ Scripture Reading: _____________________________________________                         ___ Message: _____________________________________________________                         ___ Stewardship/Offering: ___________________________________________                         ___ A specific ritual: _______________________________________________                         ___ Alter Call: ____________________________________________________                         ___ Other: ________________________________________________________               7. What 2 facets of worship are least powerful for you?  Why?                         ___ Prayer: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Music: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Communion: _________________________________________________                         ___ Scripture Reading: _____________________________________________                         ___ Message: _____________________________________________________                         ___ Stewardship/Offering: ___________________________________________                         ___ A specific ritual: _______________________________________________                         ___ Other: ________________________________________________________               8. What is your focus when you worship (place a %)?                         ___ Interaction/sharing in Community                         ___ Personal Reflection                         ___ I am frequently focused on distractions (rustling papers, thought of work/home, etc)                         ___ On making a connection with God                         ___ On getting it done                         ___ Other: __________________________________________________________

Relationships

Relationships:                         1. How often do you socialize with others?                         ___ Weekly or more                         ___ Every Couple of Weeks                         ___ Once a Month                         ___ Every few Months                         ___ Rarely                         ___ Never                         2. What type of socializing with others do you find most meaningful/enjoyable? Why?                         ___ Large Groups                         ___ Small Groups                         ___ A couple of others                         ___ One on One                         _______________________________________________________________               3. How intently do you listen to others when they are talking?                         ___ Intensely                         ___ Moderately                         ___ Fade in and Out                         ___ Don’t really listen much at all               4. What motivates your listening?                         ___ Politeness                         ___ That I might be able to use something said for personal advantage                         ___ To learn about the person or situation                         ___ Because I care about the person                         ___ Forced to listen                         ___ Because I feel like I can help fix things                         ___ I listen for a break so that I can talk                         ___ Other: ______________________________________________________               5. How frequently do you open (share) yourself to others?                         ___ Frequently                         ___ Sometimes                         ___ On Occasion                         ___ Rarely                         ___ Never really show myself               6. When you share about yourself to others how deeply do you share? (you may want to use a                 code for different groups you share with such as: best friend (bf), Church Group (cg), Work (w),                 family (f), spouse (s), friends (fr), etc.)                         ___ Surface Information  (job, hobbies, where grew up, etc.)                         ___ Personal but safe information                         ___ Personal beliefs                         ___ Difficult or hurtful Experiences                         ___ Personal Struggles                         ___ Personal Dreams                         ___ Other: ___________________________________________________________                         7. How many people really know your heart and struggles?                         ___ Nobody                         ___ God alone                         ___ One Person                         ___ A Few                         ___ I don’t even allow myself to know                         ___ Many people know

Impact/Making a Difference

Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace   Impact/Making a Difference:             1. Where have you made the greatest difference with a person or situation?  Was your impact           positive or negative?  What was that difference? _________________________________      ________________________________________________________________________   2. Where are you currently impacting people and situations?  Is your impact positive or negative?      Is the impact you make intentionally done? ______________________________________      _________________________________________________________________________      ________________________________________________________________________   3.      What situation(s) or issue(s) are thinking about getting involved in (e.g. children’s issues, poverty, homelessness, aging, violence, crime, the environment)? ______________     Is there something you feel you are to offer/give but haven’t? Where does the prompting to                  offer this come from?  Is it the right prompting? __________________________                  ________________________________________________________________                             If it is from the right prompting, why haven’t you done it? ________________                 _________________________________________________________________               4. Are there any hesitations or barriers to you “getting involved” or working to make                 a difference? What?                 ____ Fear of Failure                 ____ Concern about time demands                 ____ Lack of knowledge or understanding                 ____ Lack of confidence                 ____ Not wanting to be “put out” or inconvenienced                 ____ Other: ____________________________________________________________               5. What % of your resource (money, property, stocks, etc.) do you use to make a                 positive impact in life?                         ___ Nothing                         ___ 1-4%                         ___ 5-9%                         ___ 10%                         ___ 11+%               6. What % of your time do you use to make a difference (building relationships,                 Praying of others, worship, serving, learning, etc.)?   (times below assumes                 112 hours/week--- 8 hours sleep/night is not included in figures)                         ___ Nothing                         ___ 1-4% (1-47 minutes/day or up to 5.5 hours/wk)                         ___ 5-9% (48-95 minutes/day or 5.6-11 hours/wk)                         ___ 10% (96 minutes/day or 11.2 hours/week)                         ___ 11+% (105+ minutes/day or 12.3+ hours/week)                  What do you include as time offered for/shared with God and why? _____________                         _________________________________________________________________               7. What response do you have to the Bible’s call to give 10% (tithe)? Why?                         ___ Disgust: ________________________________________________________                         ___ Feel like I should but don’t know how I can: ___________________________                         ___ Feel like it doesn’t matter what I give: ________________________________                         ___ Feel excited about offering this to God: ________________________________                         ___ Feel grateful for all I have and want to show it: __________________________                         ___ Want to give this and more: _________________________________________                         ___ Other: ___________________________________________________________               8. What do you think about giving an ‘offering’ (more than 10%) to make a positive impact?                         ___ It is too much                         ___ I wish I could but I can’t                         ___ I celebrate doing it                         ___ I’ll do it when a need hits me                         ___ Other _____________________________________________________               9. What ‘talents’ do you have to offer?                         ___ Skills (i.e. areas taught or trained in) ____________________________                                     ________________________________________________________                         ___ Knowledge (i.e. formal education, informal learning) _______________                                     _________________________________________________________                         ___ Experiences (e.g. what have you gone through or done that can help others)                                          __________________________________________________________                         ___ Abilities (e.g. natural strengths or talents) _________________________                                     _________________________________________________________               10. What do you feel about giving? (check all that apply)                         ___ Joy                         ___ Obligation/Duty                         ___ Fear (if you don’t)                         ___ Opportunity                         ___ Conflicted                         ___ Guilty                         ___ Other: ________________________________________________               11. What do you believe is the ‘good news’ we have to share about God?                         ___ We can be forgiven and do what we want                         ___ We can be forgiven and have great blessings                         ___ We can be forgiven and serve God                         ___ With Christ’s help we can be good enough to go to heaven                         ___ We can receive grace & reveal more of our God created beauty                         ___ We can receive grace & find fulfillment                         ___ I can have an intimate connection with god                         ___ Other __________________________________________________                12. How have you tried to show God to others? (check all that apply)                         ___ I have lived a good example                         ___ I have prayed for another to know Christ more deeply                         ___ I talked with a family member/friend about Jesus                         ___ I talked with an acquaintance about Jesus                         ___ I talked with a stranger about Jesus                         ___ I have given a Bible to someone                         ___ I have loved those around me                         ___ I did some kind actions                         ___ I helped provide a ministry to show them Christ’s love                         ___ I prayed for opportunities to show Christ to others                         ___ I have been intentionally building a relationship with others                         ___ I have brought someone to Church                         ___ Other _______________________________________________               13. What keeps you from telling others of God’s blessings? (check all that apply)                         ___ Fear of looking like a fanatic                         ___ Not knowing what to say                         ___ Not knowing who to talk to about Christ                         ___ I believe that faith is a private and personal issue                         ___ Not wanting to be pushy or to judge other’s beliefs                         ___ Afraid of being asked questions I don’t know how to answer                         ___ Uncertain that Christ really makes that big of difference                         ___ Fear of loosing friends                         ___ Fear of being harmed, labeled, rejected or ridiculed                         ___ Other _______________________________________________               14. Do you feel you are being asked to share God’s great message? With whom? How?                         ___ With someone at work ___________________________________________                         ___ With someone at home ___________________________________________                         ___ With a friend, family member, acquaintance ___________________________                         ___ With strangers (e.g. on a mission trip) ________________________________                         ___ In a restaurant or store ____________________________________________                         ___ I don’t feel like I am to show Christ to others

Submitting to God

Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace  Submitting to God   1.      What are you most prizing and serving in life? Look at your credit card/bank       statement to see where you are spending your money and your calendar to see      what commands your time for clues they reveal. ___ Job ___ Hobby ___ Family ___ Yourself ___ Comfort ___ God ___ Money ___ Pleasure ___ Security ___ Other: _______________  _____________________________________               2. How do you show your submission or commitment to that priority? ___ by the amount of time given to it ___ by money spent on it ___ by what changes I make in response to it ___ by priorities it puts in place ___ by who I associate with or do not associate with ___ Other: ______________________________________________________                               3. What do you think of when you hear “submission”?                   ___ Boring                   ___ Cruelty                   ___ Oppression                   ___ Honoring another                   ___ Willingly Serving                   ___ Seeking to bring joy to another                   ___ Degrading oneself                   ___ Weakness                   ___ Failure                   ___ Seeing more than oneself                   ___ Other: ______________________________________________________   3.  How do you show your submission to God? (mark all that apply) ___ Giving of time to be with God ___ Giving of money to do what God desires ___ Living without some things in order to better do what God desires ___ Changing priorities to what God says is best ___ Forgiving others even when it is difficult ___ Caring about the welfare of others ___ Trusting in the direction God has pointed out for me to take ___ Spending time in worship ___ Spending time listening in prayer ___ Working to make a positive impact on the world ___ Telling others about God’s love sent in Jesus ___ Confessing my wrongs and asking for forgiveness from God and others ___ Other: _____________________________________________________   4.  What things cloud your dedication to God being first priority? ___ Fear of what God will ask of me ___ Love of pleasure and comforts ___ Uncertainty of if I will like what God brings ___ Hurts of the past ___ Feeling let down by God ___ Confusion about what God wants or how to make God the priority ___ My life is doing just fine without God messing around in it ___ I have found other priorities that I like more ___ Other:___________________________________________________   5.      God says that we will find help as we submit. How have you personally been       blessed by God? (check all that apply)                         ___ Encouraged or Motivated                         ___ Given Peace                         ___ Valued                         ___ Given a new start                         ___ Removed guilt                         ___ Given Joy                         ___ Provided for your needs                         ___ Received direction/guidance                         ___ Given opportunities                         ___ Challenged about something                         ___ Given protection                         ___ Strengthened                         ___ Creativity                         ___ Other ________________________________________________          6.      If you claim to follow God how have you hidden or are you hiding your loyalty to him       in some way?  Why?                         ___ At work, because: ________________________________________                         ___ At home, because: ________________________________________                         ___ In public, because: ________________________________________                         ___ On vacation, because: _____________________________________                         ___ In a relationship, because: __________________________________                         ___ Other: _________________________________________________   7.      Is there something that God is wanting you to submit in right now?  What?  If you are struggling to submit, why? __________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________

Authenticity

Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace  Authenticity:               1. Where do you feel like you are being most truly yourself?  Where are you least your true                   self? Why? ________________________________________________________                   __________________________________________________________________               2. What image, words, or actions are inconsistent with who you want to be? ___________                   __________________________________________________________________                   _________________________________________________________________               3. What keeps you from being ‘honest’ about yourself (success or failures)?                         ___ Pride                         ___ Fear of repercussions                         ___ Legal repercussions                         ___ Not wanting to brag or seem arrogant                         ___ Fear of losing something or someone                         ___ It would mean I would need to change                         ___ I don’t know                         ___ Other: _______________________________________________________               4. Who helps (or who can help) you be ‘honest’?                         ___ Family member: _______________________________________________                         ___ Friend: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Co-Worker: _________________________________________________                         ___ Church Member/Leader: ________________________________________                         ___ Other: _____________________________________________________               5. How much are you working to: (% of the time)                         ___ ‘be all you can be’                         ___ stay where you are because ‘no one is perfect’?                         ___ just treading water or making it through the day                         ___ hiding               6. Where are you most and least like Christ calls you to be? Name the specific things:                  (check as many as apply using M = Most and L = Least)                         ___ In my talking: ________________________________________________                         ___ In my habits: ________________________________________________                         ___ In my inner thoughts: ___________________________________________                         ___ In my values: ________________________________________________                         ___ In my priorities: ______________________________________________                         ___ In my job activities: ___________________________________________                         ___ In my family interaction: ________________________________________                         ___ In my friendship activities: _______________________________________                         ___ Other ______________________________________________________                 7. How have you grown to be more like Christ in the past year?                 8. How have you moved away from being like Christ in the past year?

Love

Wallace SC&W Rev. Stephen C. Wallace   SPIRITUAL MATURING BY OPENING UP Fruit of the Spirit Galatians 5:22-23   Spiritual Maturity is not all about what we can achieve and do.  It is not just about the actions we take.  It is also about how much we allow Christ to dwell in us.  We are told that the Spirit offers us fruit that will bless us and others.  Yet we often close ourselves off from these blessings.  How open are you to receiving these gifts from the Holy Spirit?   Love:               1. Who are you choosing not to love or limiting your love toward?(check all that apply & list                 names)                         ___ Family: ______________________________________________________________                         ___ Co-workers: __________________________________________________________                         ___ Acquaintances: ________________________________________________________                         ___ Strangers: ____________________________________________________________                         ___ Self: ________________________________________________________________                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________________               2. Are you ‘loving your enemy’ by wishing for them to find God’s presence and blessing?                         ___ Family: ______________________________________________________________                         ___ Acquaintance/co-worker: ________________________________________________                         ___ Stranger (know of but don’t know personally): _______________________________                         ___ Past Relationship: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Other ________________________________________________________________               3. Sometime I find it hard to love unless: (check all that apply)                         ___ People act ‘right’                         ___ We believe the same things                         ___ We have the same priorities                         ___ They treat me right                         ___ I am in the mood                         ___ Other ________________________________________               4. What is most likely to hold you back from loving?                         ___ Lack of accepting them                         ___ Fear of ____________________________________________________________                         ___ Anger or hatred                         ___ Uncertainty over: ____________________________________________________                         ___ Energy                         ___ Time                         ___ Unable to forgive                         ___ Other: _____________________________________________________________

Joy

Joy:               1. What % of your life are you: ___ happy,   ___ neutral,   ___ sad?                 2. I struggle the most to be full of joy when? (check all that apply)                         ___ Good things aren’t happening                         ___ I am not being treated right                         ___ I am not physically healthy                         ___ I am in physical, emotional, psychological pain                         ___ I just don’t feel like I have anything to be grateful about                         ___ I have job struggles                         ___ I have family struggles                         ___ Other _________________________________________               3. How dependant is your joy on your circumstances?                         ___ Totally                         ___ Not at all                         ___ Not on good days                         ___ 50/50                         ___ Depends on the current circumstances               4. What joy ‘igniters’ do you tap into or see?                         ___ Scriptures about hope and blessings                         ___ Observing the greatness of Creation                         ___ Counting God’s kindnesses                         ___ Helping others                         ___ Worship                         ___ Socializing or fellowshipping experiences                         ___ Humor/Comedy                         ___ Other: ___________________________________________________________               5. How do you tap into these ‘joy bringers’? ________________________________________               6, How often do you tap into joy ‘igniters’?  Why or why not do you tap into these? ______                _________________________________________________________________________

Peace

Peace:               1. How dependant is your sense of security on external issues or circumstances?                         ___ My sense of peace is totally dependant on what is taking place                         ___ I usually feel secure/peaceful even in less than the best circumstances                         ___ I feel secure/at peace when there are only minor difficulties in my life                         ___ I often feel secure/peaceful even with major issues or difficulties ___ I feel secure or at peace in any situation ___ I have to work at not letting things rob me of peace               2. What situations are difficult for you to remain ‘peace-full’ in? (check all that apply)                         ___ Personal Conflicts                         ___ Work                         ___ Family Situations                         ___ Church Issues                         ___ Societal Issues                         ___ World Instability/Struggles                         ___ Spiritual Issues                         ___ Financial Issues                         ___ Emotional Issues                         ___ Moral Issues                         ___ Health Issues                         ___ Other __________________________________________________________                                     3. What crushes your peace (check all that apply)?  Why?                         ___ Fear                         ___ Physical hurt                         ___ Situational Instability (e.g. loss of job, divorce, life stage transition)                         ___ Uncertainty                         ___ Feeling left out                         ___ Feeling ‘less fortunate’                         ___ Jealousy                         ___ Conflict                         ___ Hatred                         ___ Injustice                         ___ Guilt                         ___ Shame                         ___ Other ____________________________________________________________               3. How do you deal with conflict?                         ___ Fight to get the way I think best or prefer                         ___ I compromise so that it is resolved                         ___ I work for a consensus                         ___ Avoid conflict                         ___ I go along with the majority                         ___ I go along with my friends                         ___ Other: _____________________________________________________________               4. What are the two major focuses in how you deal with conflict?                         ___ Work to solve the issue/problem or do the task                         ___ Focus on saving/protecting relationships…which ones: ______________________                         ___ Make sure all the ‘I’s’ are dotted and ‘T’s’ are crossed                         ___ I avoid it                         ___ Try to get others to go along with my way                         ___ Follow my friends in whatever direction they take                         ___ Hold on to the way things have been done                         ___ Other: ____________________________________________________________                         5. Are you striving for peace or just working to ignore/suppress conflict? Why?                         ___ At home: ________________________________________________________                         ___ At work: ________________________________________________________                         ___ In friendships: ____________________________________________________                         ___ With God: _______________________________________________________                         ___ At Church: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Other: __________________________________________________________

Patience

Patience:   1. How often, this past week, have you been ‘short’ with a family member/friend/stranger or     yourself?  Why?                         ___ Not at all                         ___ Once: _____________________________________________________________                         ___ A Few Times: ______________________________________________________                         ___ Often: _____________________________________________________________                         ___ Constantly: _________________________________________________________   2. List on a scale of 1-10 how patient you are in each of these situations: ___ With family            ___ At Work   ___ In Public Situations (restaurants, stores, etc.) ___ With technology ___ In Traffic   ___ On Vacation          ___ Under Stress         ___ Other: __________________________________________________________             3. What issues or situations do you have the least patience about?  Why? ______________ _________________________________________________________________________               4. What makes you impatient with a family/friend/situation?  (check all that apply)                         ___ Failure to do what I asked or to meet my needs                         ___ The pace of what is done                         ___ Confusion about the situation                         ___ Outside influences (e.g. job)                         ___ Unreal expectations                         ___ Responsibility                         ___ Alcohol or drugs                         ___ Lack of energy                         ___ Repeated offense or hardship                         ___ Other __________________________________________________________               5. Where have you grown in patience in a situation that once frustrated you? What was it?                         ___ At home: ________________________________________________________                         ___ At work: ________________________________________________________                         ___ With life situation:_________________________________________________                         ___ With health: ______________________________________________________                         ___ With another person: _______________________________________________                         ___ Other ___________________________________________________________               6. How hard do you find it to ‘wait upon the Lord’ to take care of things?                         ___ Impossibly in some situations                         ___ Very Hard                         ___ Usually OK                         ___ Almost always OK                         ___ Never a problem                 7. What is waiting like for you?                         ___ Lonely                         ___ Stressful                         ___ Confusing                         ___ Fearful of: _______________________________________________________                         ___ Depressing                         ___ Eagerly Anticipating                         ___ Peaceful                         ___ Distracting (lose focus)                         ___ Other: ___________________________________________________________               8. What is your response when God doesn’t act on your timeline? (choose one)                         ___ Give up on God                         ___ Do my own thing and hope God will come along                         ___ Do nothing but get resentful                         ___ Do nothing but become discouraged and down                         ___ Look for why God might not be acting as I want when I want                         ___ Trust that God is working on my behalf and will reveal things at the right time

Kindness

Kindness:               1. What are the last five non-required/non-expected kind acts you have done?      (said a kind word to a person who was struggling, been patient with someone having difficulty      doing their job, given money to a need, given time to help another, shared information that      another needed, prayed with or for the person, etc.)                         1.                         2.                         3.                         4.                         5.                  What are five kindnesses you could have shown but chose not to show?                         1.                         2.                         3.                         4.                         5.               2. How many kind deeds do you do in an average week?                         ___ None                         ___ A Few                         ___ Several                         ___ Many                         ___ Do them constantly               3. How often do you “plan” and carry out kind deeds for others (Intentional Kindnesses)?                         ___ Daily                         ___ One or more a week                         ___ Every Couple of weeks                         ___ Every month or so                         ___ I don’t plan kindnesses but just do things when I feel like it                         ___ I don’t do kind things               4. Why do you do acts of kindness? (check all that apply)                         ___ Recognition                         ___ For the ‘good feeling’                         ___ Out of gratitude for what I have received                         ___ Because they need it                         ___ Because I enjoy it                         ___ Because of guilt for what I have                         ___ Out of another kind of guilt: _______________________________________                         ___ Because of embarrassment                         ___ Because I’m ‘supposed to’                         ___ Other __________________________________________________________               5. Do you put a ‘cap’ on kindness?  If so, how and why? Is it a good cap? (e.g. fear of being hurt,                 being taken advantage of, it costing too much) __________________________________     ________________________________________________________________________   6. If it is a negative cap what would it take for you to remove the cap? ___________________     __________________________________________________________________________                         7. In what situations or issues are you least likely to be kind?  Why?                         ___ Someone doing criminal behavior: ________________________________________                         ___ Someone doing immoral but not criminal behavior: ___________________________                         ___ Someone whom I’ve forgiven previously but has done it again: _________________                         ___ A world situation with other countries or peoples: ____________________________                         ___ A situation of leaders doing wrong: _______________________________________                         ___ A situation involving harm done to children/youth: ___________________________                         ___ A situation where the poor were taken advantage of by another: _________________                         ___ With yourself: ________________________________________________________                         ___ With those you love (family, friends): _____________________________________                         ___ With strangers: _______________________________________________________                         ___ Someone acting selfishly or bullying others: ________________________________                         ___ With people who are rigidly judgmental                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________________   8. Is God softening your heart to a person/situation?                         ___ At home                         ___ At work                         ___ In the World                         ___ With an Acquaintance or stranger                         ___ Other ___________________________________________________________               9. How do you allow God to soften your heart?                         ___ Do what God prompts me to do even if I don’t ‘feel’ like it                         ___ Pray for God’s will to be made clear to me and done                         ___ Read Scripture on forgiveness, mercy, justice, righteousness                         ___ Continually remind myself of my failings in order to recognize the mercy shown me                         ___ Other: ____________________________________________________________

Goodness

Goodness:               1. Do you first see the good/positive ___     or      bad/negative in situations___?   2. What is the “flavoring” that you bring to situations? ________________________________   3. Do you function neutrally (N) (trying not to make waves or go out on limbs), proactive for the      good (G), or enhancing wrong (W)? ___ At work __________________________________________________________                         ___ At home __________________________________________________________                         ___ In conflict situations _________________________________________________                         ___ With social issues (e.g. hunger, poverty, justice) __________________________                         ___ Everywhere _______________________________________________________                         ___ Other ____________________________________________________________   4. In what situations and ways do you bring ‘goodness’? (choose all that apply)             ___ By talking positively and affirmatively             ___ By proactively doing good deeds             ___ By standing up for what is right/just             ___ By confronting wrong             ___ By protecting the innocent             ___ Other _________________________________________________________               5. Where do you fail to be an influence of ‘good’ (e.g. gossiping, speaking/acting negatively,      ignoring the needs of others, etc.)? How?                         ___ At work __________________________________________________________                         ___ At home __________________________________________________________                         ___ In conflict situations _________________________________________________                         ___ With social issues (e.g. hunger, poverty, justice) __________________________                         ___ Everywhere _______________________________________________________                         ___ Other ____________________________________________________________

Faithfulness

Faithfulness:               1. Where has God asked you to do something this week?  What have you done in response?                         ___ At Home: __________________    ___Done it   ___Done ½ way  ___ Ignored it                         ___ At Work: __________________     ___Done it   ___Done ½ way  ___ Ignored it                         ___ For the world: ______________     ___Done it   ___Done ½ way  ___ Ignored it                         ___ At Church: _________________    ___Done it   ___Done ½ way  ___ Ignored it                         ___ Other: _____________________    ___Done it   ___Done ½ way  ___ Ignored it               2. Where do you struggle the most to do what God desires? (choose all that apply)                         ___ Words     ___ Actions     ___ Attitudes     _____Priorities   3. In what areas of your life do you feel that you are following God faithfully?  Tell how?      ________________________________________________________________________      ________________________________________________________________________   5. Are there ongoing areas of you life where you are not being faithful (e.g. priority, attitude,     action)?  List these specifically: ______________________________________________,          _________________________________, _____________________________________,      _________________________________, ______________________________________,

Gentleness

Gentleness:               1. Were your words this past week: (give a % of 100)   ___ nice     or     ___ harsh?               2. Were your actions this past week: (give a % of 100)  ___abrupt/hurtful or ___ comforting/helpful?               3. How do you view gentleness? (check all that apply)                         ___ As a weakness                         ___ As an option                         ___ As treating with tenderness                         ___ As showing care                         ___ As giving ‘proper’ attention                         ___ As incompatible with justice                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________________   4. Are there people with whom you are not gentle?  Why? a________________________________________________________________________ b________________________________________________________________________ c________________________________________________________________________   5. Where do you find gentleness easier to give?             ___ Family             ___ Friends             ___ Acquaintances             ___ Strangers             ___ With no one             ___ Co-workers             ___ Church             ___ Authority figures             ___ Service persons             ___ Other: ________________________________________________________________

Self-Control

Self-Control:   1. Where do you feel you have the greatest self-control:                         ___ In the words I say                         ___ In my habits                         ___ In my work                         ___ With my family                         ___ In my thoughts                         ___ Other: ________________________________________________________________   2. Where do you feel out of control?  Why? (check all that apply)  Name the habit, priority,      relationship or ___ specifically.                         ___ With a Habit: __________________________________________________________                         ___ With Priorities: ________________________________________________________                         ___ With Work: ___________________________________________________________                         ___ In a Relationship: ______________________________________________________                         ___ With an Emotion (e.g. anger, jealousy): ____________________________________                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________________                         3. What makes you feel out of control or what issues/items do you find hard to control?                 4. How do you usually act/think when you feel out of control?                         ___ Angry                         ___ Afraid                         ___ Defensively                         ___ Distant                         ___ Impatient                         ___ Hopeless (I just give up)                         ___ I work harder to control or try to control                         ___ I trust that everything will work out OK                         ___Other: ______________________________________________________________               5. Are you working to control everything yourself or are you allowing God to help you? How?                 ___________________________________________________________________________               6. Where do you need/wish to put boundary lines of control (if only you could keep them)?                         ___ With this Habit: ______________________________________________________                         ___ With this/these Priorities: _______________________________________________                         ___ With Work: __________________________________________________________                         ___ In this Relationship: ___________________________________________________                         ___ With this Emotion: ____________________________________________________                         ___ Other _______________________________________________________________